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Wednesday Links


Sleep Deprivation and Teenagers by Dr. Frances Jensen.   Okay, now I finally understand why my teenager hangs around in the family room when he’s supposed to be going to bed but acts like he has a hangover in the morning. “One reason is that melatonin, a hormone critical to inducing sleep, is released two hours later at night in a teenager’s brain than it is in an adult’s. It also stays in the teenager’s system longer, which is why it’s so hard to wake your high schooler up in the morning. Adults, on the other hand, have almost no melatonin in their system when they wake up and therefore don’t have the same groggy feeling.”

Babies Learn Best Right Before Sleep by Gwen Dewar, PhD.  Just like grown-ups, a new study suggests that babies learn and recall things better when they sleep right afterward.  Just think of all the good we are doing with bedtime stories!

Catholics and Family Size:  Dr. Greg wrote this thoughtful response to reports that Pope Francis said Catholics are not required to breed like rabbits.  Dr. Greg offers advice for discerning family size.


Downsides of Early Day Care by Matthew Fallon and Darcia Narvaez.  Distinguishes between “alloparents” and day care workers.  Alloparents are trusted adults in the mother’s circle who help out with the baby, but the mother remains nearby in case the baby is distressed  “This sort of environment allows an infant to become more comfortable away from mom while also developing a secure attachment because mom is always there when she is needed to calm the infant.”  The modern day care setting is far different from allocaring, because the mother is not accessible, the number of infants outnumbers adults, there is far less physical contact, and the children are not attached to the daycare workers.


Curiosity Questions:  Jane Nelsen over at Positive Discipline suggests exploring the consequences of a child’s behavior with her instead of immediately imposing consequences.  Nelsen believes this approach may lead to better problem solving skills in kids.

Limited Choices:  Another good tip from Jane Nelsen at Positive Discipline.  Instead of ordering your child around, offer her limited choices.

Wednesday Links

Intentional Basics

6 Things the Happiest Families Have in Common:  Well, we could squabble about this list, but I found it interesting and a great reminder about the importance of respectful communication, and playing and eating together!  Most interesting:  passing on a family history children.


Tweens:  How Their Passions Change:  A great article from Dr. Jennifer Powell-Lunder explaining how a tween’s (ages 10-12) passions begin to narrow as she matures.

Teens:  Signs of Healthy Independence:  By yours truly, this piece explains the signs of healthy independence in teens, unhealthy dependence, and how to spot the difference.

Gentle Discipline

Silent Signals:  Jane Nelsen explains the concept of “silent signals” — a positive, gentle way to deal with a child who interrupts you.  I do this in my own home but didn’t know it had an official name!

Kind but Firm:  Another great post from Jane Nelsen about the importance of being both kind AND firm and the potential harm that results when possess only one of those qualities in our parenting.  I appreciated her insights about parents who are opposites — when one is kind but not firm, and the other is firm but not kind enough.

Welcome to Intentional Catholic Parenting

kimlydiaWelcome to our new website devoted to exploring the concept of “intentional Catholic parenting,” especially through “The 7 Building Blocks to a Joyful Catholic Home” parenting model.  This site will offer articles and links to relevant resources and research on how we can live intentionally with our children.

Here’s a description of “intentional Catholic parenting.”