It’s been too long since I offered Wednesday Links! Here are some great links for encouraging us to live with generous love in our families:
Raising a Baby Well Is Like Climbing Mount Everest: Just like mountain climbing, wise parenting takes preparation, focus, and practice.
Tiger Moms and Her Critics Are Both Right: Fascinating. This article looks at research which suggests that whether or not “tiger mothering” (pushing, pressuring, even nagging a child in order to get her to succeed) is beneficial is dependent upon the child’s culture. Children raised in an Asian culture where community-identity is valued do okay while Western kids where individuality is valued do poorly. Note: in neither Asian nor Western cultures did children do well in critical, authoritarian households.
Play Ball: A young mother questions her own inclination to sign up her son for sports. “While most of us engage in activities with an end goal in mind (a competition, a recital, a game), my son and my niece wanted to engage in something for the sheer love of doing it. After that realization, I began to look at this rush to put our kids in organized activities in a whole new light. I wondered if, perhaps, we as parents might do our children a disservice by taking them out of the yard and putting them on the field too soon. Or by placing them in organized activities where they interact with peers and other adults instead of nurturing their love for an activity with us, their parents, the people they really want to share their love with the most.”
Raising a Moral Child: If you want to raise a kind, helpful, compassionate child, this NY Times article argues that a parent should 1) avoid making the child feel like a bad person through shaming and 2) focus on the child’s good character rather than her actions.
Kids with Strong Bond to Parents Make Better Friends: When kids enjoy a warm, loving relationship with their parents, they are more responsive and caring in their childhood friendships.
Outdoor Play More Important than Indoor Play for a Child’s Development: In this article, Darcia Narvaez looks at research which suggests that outdoor play is imperative to a child’s mental and physical well-being — even more critical than indoor play. I would be cautious about the suggestion that indoor play is “detrimental” for children. Indoor play is very different from outdoor play. The article cites the dangers of video games on a child’s development, but there are so many more ways our kids play inside. Indoors a child can build wooden block castles, make forts with his siblings, and play board games with his parents. This are wonderful play experiences. It’s the balance of these experiences that matter: kids need both outdoor play and indoor play; they need both self-directed free play, and family play which might be more organized.
Why Play with Your Child?: A superb overview of the benefits of parent-child shared play.
How to Be a Prayer Warrior While Fighting the Battle of Parenthood: Great practical tips from Charisse Tierney for getting into a habit of daily prayer no matter how busy you are with parenting little ones.
A Strong Marriage
The Spirituality of Sex: A great article from Dr. Greg Popcak about the true Catholic view of sexuality.